[Barnes66]

1 year ago I pointed that this co worker had put on so much weight in front of other 2 workers.I don't know why I said that as I just say what's on my mind.I wasn't trying to be hurtful. I didn't think much of it until she told me that she was very hurt by it. I apologized and she seemed fine around me afterwards but she wasn't as friendly and warm as before the incident


Now a yea later,I say hi to her whenever I see her but she now ignores me and avoids me. It because of the comments I had said before?That was a year ago and she had lost the weight again

[smoothy]

Some people can hold a grudge longer than others... this one apparently is one of them.

Just say hi and let it go, if and when she comes around it will be on her schedule. All you can do until then is be cordial.

As you now know....there are some things you just do not say to anyone but close friends....and certainly not in front of others. Learn from this mistake. Many women will take such a thing VERY personally.

[joypulv]

Perhaps because you DO tend to say what's on your mind, in general. Since it doesn't sound like you had been friends in the first place, just let it go. She probably just decided that she doesn't like you - nothing 'wrong' with that. Accepting an apology is the polite thing to do; it doesn't mean it's forgotten.

This isn't an issue of what you had said. It's an issue of the right of anyone to be friendly or not, as they wish.