Originally Posted by
Protoplasmica
The 12 year old is playing you. Best way to deal with this is to build a relationship with the younger kids, leaving the eldest out, and let her come to you when she is ready.
Leave the 12 year old out? That's your advice? :mad:
She's 12! She's a kid! She's away from her mom, in a house where everything is different, woman she barely knows acting like a mother, kids she doesn't know well. Of course she's upset.
As for the son saying that the girls mothers name is not allowed to be spoken in your house. How dare he? That's here mother. She loves her mother, even if you think the woman has loads of faults, she's still the child's mother.
Put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel?
Give her time, be patient, be loving, and try to make her feel included in the family. Tell your son that he should watch what he says, think how he would feel if someone said something like that to him.
It's only 2 weeks, surely you can make the effort to make this child feel welcome.