Should I leave my husband?
I married my husband 6 years ago when he was in the military. We do love each other and rarely argue. The thing I am having a hard time dealing with is he is so much different than when I married him. When he was discharged from the military (honorably) he has become extremely irresponsible to the point he has lost job after job, lied to me, borrowed money from various sources to cover up his job losses, etc.
Right now he is making very little money but he is content living week to week. He smokes about $60.00 worth of cigarettes every week and won't hear of quitting (it's not an option). I smoke too, (3packs per week) so I can't be a hypocrate but I am trying to get us to quit together.
I have tried talking him into looking for a better paying career rather than low paying job he has, he doesn't want to because his job is easy. He just has no motivation at all to do better. I have become a parent figure to him rather than a wife. I have had to give him an allowance of 60.00/week so that he didn't smoke up all our grociery money, which has happened before the allowance.
I handle all of the finances in the relationship, if it were up to him, we wouldn't survive. I know I can't change the way he is, and wouldn't want to. I just don't think I can deal with it.
All he does at home is play computer games, and rarely helps around the house. When he was in the military he was responsible and honest but now I'm thinking it was because he was forced to be. What would you do??