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    stevie29ca Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 20, 2010, 06:38 PM
    I met a girl this summer
    We went out on some great dates and talked about how our relationship could work as we live an hour apart,so as we dated for about 6-7 weeks things were going great even though I thought it was going a bit fast I went with it, she would call or text me evey day in the morning and at night she would text me and say she missed me I was nice we met eachothers parents I felt like a kid again she's 36- I'm 39 like I said things were going great until a week before my birthday she started getting distant and when I asked her why shy said her ex husband was streesing her out to the max witch was the case from day one,and that now I was preasuring her too witch was hard for me to believe coming from a girl that would call and text me ten times a day, I tried talking to her again last week about it and she was just very corse and then hung up on me and I haven't heard from her since, am I waiting for something that's not there anymore as we only met this summer? Missing her
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    I wish Posts: 5,296, Reputation: 2030
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    Oct 21, 2010, 07:01 AM

    She's got a lot of baggage, so you're going to need a lot of patience. Let her know, either through email or voicemail that you're willing to work things out, but after that, it will be up to her if she wants. You can't force her to do something that she won't do willingly.
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    Oct 21, 2010, 10:00 AM

    Wow - sounds like you really care about her. Problem is that she's just not ready for a serious relationship with anybody yet.

    She's not a good lady for you in her current state of confusion, so back off and don't call or text her.
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    Nov 3, 2010, 10:36 AM
    Sounds like she just got caught up in the romance over the summer, pure GREASE.
    I suggest time and patience. Show her that you care and want to help her to be happy but understand that baggage takes time. You know the whole check in, weighing, loading - storing, transporting, and unloading takes a lot of time and effort.
    It's a complicated dramatic woman thing where they bring old baggage along to see if you'll stick with her. Its unconsciously done for the most part and it does not make her a bad person or a needy person. So be understandable.
    Hope this helps.

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