[fatallady]

Hi, help me.
I love this man, and we have lived together for almost 3 years now. I don't know if it's me or what. Is it right for him to help out his friends before me? He has never bought me anything for any occasion in 3 years. I'm not greedy, but that hurts my feelings. He always thinks it is me that is miserable, never him. Does he have issues or am I blind?

Sherri-DOB-2/21/64
Jim-DOB-8/24/71

[schuylervj]

Every healthy relationship needs reciprocity or it will die... if he always puts other people before you, then there is something wrong with your relationship and how he views you; you need to communicate to him how you feel... he may not even be aware of how you feel.

[fatallady]

Does he want marriage eventually? Does he really love
Me? I thought we were soulmates, but I guess I'm the only one who can see that.

[schuylervj]

Before you think about marriage, you need to get your relationship straightened out. You must have open, clear communcation with him and tell him how you feel (in a calm, concise manner)and fix what is broken first... no sense in binding yourself to a marriage before you get these other issues worked out.