[Isabel_27]

My sixteen year old daughter is dating an eighteen year old man. She told me they were having protected sex! Is that OK? Is that even legal? He's an adult and she is just a miner! I mean I like this boy, he would never do anything to hurt my daughter so I don't want to get him in trouble so I want to make sure that they are not doing anything to break the law.

[Scared gota dui]

It depends on what state you live in really, and if you do live somewhere that what the guy is committing is statutory rape the only person that can really do anything about it is your daughter. So if they are in love then let them continue to be so, and take it day by day. Advise your daughter to talk to you if she is considering breaking up with the guy, because that is when the majority of "rape" charges are pressed.

God Bless

[Isabel_27]

We live in the south. She says that she loves him and want to be with him forever. I don't tell her she doesn't know love, cause my husband and I met in high school and got married.

[john555]

Hi first off that's not really OK where she is a minor and he is a adult also that isn't even legal it actually is AGAINST the LAW hope that answers your question:)

[Isabel_27]

So the 4 year age limit doesn't apply when the other is 18?

[liz28]

What state do you in?

[Isabel_27]

Tennessee

[Fr_Chuck]

Well if your daughter is 16 and the boy is 18 there is a 2 year difference not a 4 year.. Next you have not told us where you are at, Each State has different laws, for example in GA age of consent is 16, so sex is legal at this point.

Now of course you ground her, stop her from dating, have to ask who the parent is?

You can also inform him ( as a adult) not to take your daughter anywhere, so depending on how your DA works, if he takes her out, you have some legal issues of custody interference, adult taking a minor.

There are also some strange laws, if they cross state line to have sex, there ( at least was ) laws on taking a minor acros state line for sex.

But to be honest 2 years is not much of a difference, a lot of seniors in high school are 18.

[Jay Dolce]

Omg!


Well it all depends on were you live


Here in California the legal age for sex is 18



A two year difference is fine when dating
But when it come to having sex
16 is just too young!
Its great to know that your doughter told you she's having sex
But that's how they end up pregnant!

[J_9]

In the State of Tennessee the legal age of consent is 18. If your daughter is not 18 and the boy is, this can be considered statutory rape. It doesn't matter whether the parents consent, if found out, it all depends on the prosecutor.

[Isabel_27]

They don't go anywhere really. He either comes over here or she goes over there. They love to spend time with each other. Those two are really in love and I think, if she asked, he wuld wait for her. I think in the state of TN, and 18 year old can date a 16 year old as long as sex is not involved. They are only really a year and a half apart.

[liz28]

They can date each other but they can't engaged in any sexual activity. If they do he can get in trouble.

[Isabel_27]

Ok I will have a talk with the two of them and tell them how much trouble they can get in if the keeo having sex. Thank you all so much for your help

[liz28]

My sixteen year old daughter is dating an eighteen year old man. She told me they were having protected sex! Is that ok? Is that even legal? He's an adult and she is just a miner! I mean I like this boy, he would never do anything to hurt my daughter so I dont want to get him in trouble so I want to make sure that they are not doing anything to break the law.

Regardless of where they are hanging out they're still having sex. They're even doing it in your house or his.

How exactly do you feel about this because it seems like your okay with it but then it seems like you don't or your really unsure.

[J_9]

Ok I will have a talk with the two of them and tell them how much trouble they can get in if the keeo having sex. Thank you all so much for your help

I am in Tennessee myself, just north of Memphis. Had this happen to a local couple a year or so ago. The DA was going to prosecute, but they got married before the warrants went out.

[Isabel_27]

I guess I am still in shock. I didn't think that my baby was having sex. I am OK with it cause she said that it was protected. They are both really good kids. I believe that he will stop when I tell him what could happen. He just turned 18 today so I wanted to see if it was OK

[J_9]

The guy I know could have had the label of sex offender on him for the rest of his life. He was 18 and she was 17 and got pregnant. Condoms aren't 100% effective you know. NO birth control is 100% effective.

[Isabel_27]

I know it's not Miss. Is it OK for the two of them to just date? Not have sex?

[J_9]

It's perfectly fine to date and not have sex. However, they have already had sex. This is hard to stop once a teen has started.

[Isabel_27]

I think these two can do it. I know you don't think so, cause you haven't met them. They are truly in love, he would never do anything that would but either of them in any form of danger. I will have a talk with them tomorrow and have them understand