[Teresa Vieira]

Hi I'm Teresa. I have a daughter of the age 24. We were best friends when she was home. Know she's moved out. And she never calls and don't even want to talk to me and this is really killing me because we were best friends. I can see she really hates me, why?

[talaniman]

She is finding her own path and your are trying to hold on too tightly. She may not hate you but is too busy to talk while she is distracted with the challenge of exploring her world.

Let her and take the opportunity of building your life outside of her. You do have a life that you enjoy that makes you happy don't you?

[Wondergirl]

I'm guessing she's trying to establish herself apart from you and be her own person, have her own identity. Give her some time and don't give her grief for it. Find your own excitement with friends or relatives or hobbies or reading books. Become a volunteer at a hospital or animal shelter or nursing home so that you can share all the best parts of you with others (and get back lots of satisfaction and even love in return).

[Alty]

I always cringe when a mother posts and says "we're best friends". You're not supposed to be friends with your kids, you're supposed to be a parent. You can't be a best friend and a mother, it's not possible. So based on that, I'd say you dropped being a mother so you could be her friend instead, which is really not good at all.

We can't tell you why she's not calling. Obviously she feels she has a reason to cut you out. Maybe she doesn't want a best friend, but a mother instead.

You have to be honest with yourself, because there must be a reason she's doing this, one you either don't want to face, or you don't want to admit.

Good luck.

[smearcase]

Sorry to say but don't ever fail to consider alcohol or drugs with abrupt changes of any type.

[joypulv]

Internal pressure and peer pressure. Do you realize how many friends think there's something wrong with a 20 something living at home? And they don't hide it either.

If she won't talk to you, I suspect it's because your words and actions wanted her to stay, plain and simple. She may also feel that she wasted the last few years and has to blame someone, so she blames you for making life too easy. Because unless you told her to get a job, pay you room and board, AND save for her own place, you were making it too easy.

A good parent lets a child go, and starts the encouragement and direction toward a future when the child is in her mid teens.

[Alty]

Joy, I wish I could greenie you, but I no longer have that option. I agree 100%.

[joypulv]

Same here. I really do try to give new people greenies, but I'm not stuck on the same responders; they are the ones who deserve them.

[Now I see that it took, after telling me it wouldn't..]

[abby5995]

She is probably trying to get used to not being able to have you around since she has moved out.Trying to be independent . Or her friends might be making fun of her since she has lived at home for 20 some odd years with you.