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    Jul 16, 2012, 07:19 AM
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    My male partner is 62 years old and I am 60. We have been together for two years and living together for 8 months. I want a monogamous relationship but my partner wants a cuckold relationship where he has given me the freedom to sleep with other men as he did with his ex wife which she and he enjoyed. I have stated to him many times that I have no interest in doing this as I really love him and want our relationship to grow as a loving, spiritual couple. I look younger than my age and my friends consider me attractive but I feel so unloved and disgusted when I think about my partner wanting me, at my age, to share my body with other men. We have had so many arguments over this but he just doesn't seem to want to consider or understand my feelings. I thought our love for each other would grow once we started living together and he would forget all about his fetish but I am finding the opposite is true as he is becoming more demanding to the point of putting my profile with pictures on a dating site. Every time a man contacted me or sent me a kiss, my partner would get sexually excited. I have taken my profile off because I am not looking for a lover on the side and find the whole thing quite distasteful. I love my partner and he says he loves me but I am finding his cuckold fetish is destroying our relationship because it is not what I want or believe in. Am I an old prude? What is wrong with a monogamous relationship? Thank you for your helpful advice.
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    Jul 16, 2012, 07:39 AM
    He doesn't want what you want from a relationship, so don't expect him to change that idea any time soon.

    You can't build a life you want with some one that wants something so different than you do. Yes, in time, these are the conflicts that destroy a relationship, so be careful that you don't stay somewhere you know you don't want to be.

    Hoping he changes is wishful thinking, romantic, and hopeful, but NOT realistic. He is who he is. A freaky deaky old guy!

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