[loveyouall]

Yesterday, 2 of my co-workers got into a fight. (I just use the name Miss A and Miss B). This morning when I got to work, Miss B wanted to talk to me. So we sat down in a room and she started telling me how the fight got started. I just listened to what she had to say and didn't make any comments because I don't want to get involved. I thought that it's OK to let her vent it out. Then she started telling me that Miss A had bad mouthed about me to her. When I heard that I was really upset and hurt. Because all these years at work, I thought that Miss A is my friend, we been working in the same dept. For over 20 years. Although few years ago, I found out that she had badmouthed about me, but I put that behind me and carried on with our friendship. Since that time, I have kept a distance from her, not as close as we used to.

I was really upset and hurt, I felt betrayed by Miss A. I had talked to my supervisor about it. My supervisor told me that she and the manager knew about that Miss A had badmouthed about me and already had a talk with Miss A.

I'm not sure what to do cause I'm still mad at Miss A, don't feel like talking to her anymore other than work related stuff. But we work in the same dept.

I wished that Miss B hadn't dragged me into this and hadn't told me about what Miss A badmouthed me about. I'd rather be in the dark than to know so much... Can anyone give me some advice how to deal with Miss A ? Thanks

[J_9]

I see that this is a long term working relationship, correct? However, it sounds like high school drama, and I'm sure you would agree with that.

What's the best thing to do? Hold your head high and don't feed into the drama. Be the better person and bite your tongue on this. Keep your distance even further from Miss A as it seems she likes the attention.

[loveyouall]

Yes, it's long term working relationship and I totally agreed with you that the incident was like a high school drama. But I made it very clear when I was talking to my supervisor that I'm out of this.

What upset me the most is the bad comment Miss A said about me came around to me, and she commented something that I didn't do. It really hurts. Although I knew all along that she likes to bad mouth people, not only does it to me, but to other people as well, so I just ignore that and still keep our friendship. This is not the first time that her bad comment had came around to me.

I just can't get over this, I feel hurt... I don't know how to handle it anymore. I want to talk to my manager and let her know how I feel about this. I think it's about time to put a stop to the 'bad mouthing' business...