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Originally Posted by
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Originally a private message to JBeaucaire:
hello first off all thank you vey much for your response i trully am very thankful.
May i start off with please don't think that the lesbianism thing isnt real to me. It is the reason i may have come off with me sounding like its not is only because we have a mutual friend he is actually her best friend and she told him she wasn't.
I really didnt phrase myself well i guess and im not a good writter. I in all honestly didnt mean to sound like her private life was irrevelant thats not the kind of person i am honestly thank you for bringing that to my attention. It was just that back about a year ago when i would ask her what she was doing etc and would say would she like to meet me somwhere she would decline but would allways say to me "one day i might take you up on it" and at the time her now partner worked with us.
Most importantly to be honest with you i am ashamed of myself for maybe not realizing that it may be a more serious relationship than it seemed to me and most of all i would have to say if i knew someone was in serious relationship theres no way in hell i would be a jerk and even go for something like that. You're right, its evil and its not me, so thank you for bringing that to my attention.
I feel like a complete fool but please let me say it wasnt done intentionally. It was pure blindness. I guess because of all the feelings and emotion in me i feel for her and in all honesty the gifts etc. I really allways thought her partner knew about them. Like i said complete blindness and foolishness.
I do wanna say that there's alot i didn't write about in the question that may have explained myself better but i do understand that's still not the point here.
I just wanna say that if she may have let me talk to her back when this first happened it may have been different i reaaly just wanted to let her know how special i thought she was its really all i ever wanted to do.
I gotta say what really took me over was the thought if you feel something so strong do you just let it go unsaid or do you tell someone how deeply they have touched your heart and soul? I would have to say i never felt this before, so, to be honest with you, i got tears of shame and pure sadness coming down from my eyes (please dont insult me for it ) unless its a lesson i can learn from?
I want to say i actually hope to hear back from you but if not i can't thak you enough for the reply and most of all thanks for the comment on character it is so true, and i do believe fully in your last comment becuase besides this situation i do believe in the saying "be right in your own life" and let them see and admire it on their own.
Once again jb thanks for the reply i guess as you saw im just lost with this situation thanks for some eye opening opinons
I actually hope this reply gets somehow posted so others can see that i dont think someones lifestyle is irrelevant or that im evil etc yes i am and was foolish and blindly overwhelmed with such a feeling of emotion
As i said, I sincerely appreciate your reply.
It's always tough being a grownup, isn't it? I remember my first two loves occurred when I was a teenager and that's the only thing I really had to deal with, it was so all-encompassing. Ugh! I, too, was a bit blind over love during that period.
Fortunately, my next two I had a LOT more going on. It was much easier to finally learn how to make it all fit together and make a go of it.
Man, there is so much, isn't there?
Anyway, I'm glad you're ready to treat her a little more honestly, and I'm not talking about your feelings. Feel free to mention your attraction, but you DO have to stay the course on the other important basics... like only dating single women, and perhaps one's that are clear in their sexual preference.
Although basic, it appears she may be consistent on neither issue right now. Tread with care.