Justification for Extramarital Affair
Hello all,
I have a co-worker who is approaching 57. He is married, has 2 daughters (one of them is roughly my age).
Long story short, I recently learned something I wasn't expecting to from this man; he frequents this Adult extramarital affair website called AshleyMadison.com
What he does in his private life is NOT my business, I get it. But he lately has been approaching me for an intimate, nonsexual affair (since he can't have sex due to a major surgery he had), and he claims I understand him, I would be a suitable, excellent lover, yada yada, blah blah. He said he mainly wants to hold me, kiss me, touch me, and talk about intimate things.
I of course said no, but his justifications are what deeply disturb me.
He basically said that he has long made peace with his need to find an extra lover, and that it isn't a matter of being 'happy' or unhappy, he simply embraces and finds love wherever it is offered. He also went on to say that this is something out of the norm, and that I will never understand it because only those who seek other lovers outside of a marriage will understand this (as if it is magical or mystical).
All I want people's thoughts and opinions on is why someone who claims to be happily married would do this? Why justify cheating?
It's just sad how some people in this world who have some decency and virtue are constantly looking for stable relationships, yet never seem to make it work, and this moron has a lot going for him, and selfishly wants more.